I have to mark the occasion, I’ve written before in Sacred Rituals about spending Sunday’s following our county team Limerick around Ireland as they played hurling. After 45years, they won the All Ireland hurling final, it was magic for us Limerick supporters, my cousin Vera was like do we ‘dare to dream’. The guys on the field are amateurs as in they don’t get paid to play, it’s the GAA tradition that’s unique and strong in its stance to date. It’s outstanding the effort both physical and emotionally they put into the game. Commitment, determination, belief!
The self-belief that’s been evident all year, the coaching team around them believed, the team believed and we believed for the first time in years that we may win an All-Ireland.
Where does self-belief come from, how do you cultivate it and keep that inner strength alive even in the eye of the storm. Its trust, trust in ourselves number one to be able to do the task at hand, say how we feel, trust in our abilities and capabilities.
Being realistic and optimistic – how you choose your words to describe the situation you’re in. How it’s been framed in your mind, in your emotions will have an impact on the result. It’s healthy to have self-belief and self-confidence. When you step forward to make that presentation, take that free in a game, show up for an interview you tell yourself the narrative beforehand. It’s your story!
I like this from Henry Ford “Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right.”
How do you recognise that self-belief and build on it? Everyone has doubts and disappointments in life, it’s how you deal with it and tell the story. You can choose the narrative.
Here’s a quick exercise, grab a sheet of paper and write down what you enjoy, why and what you’ve achieved – keep it in a place you can see it daily. If you’re having a block and can only think of what you haven’t achieved, see if you can reframe that thought into something that you have overcome or changed. You have made an impact, it may be a smile to someone when needed, offered support, listened to a friend in need. Now see if you can recall your strengths, what your friends and family admire about you.
Now recall three things that happened today that you’re grateful for it may be a phone call, a cup of coffee and a ray of sunshine. Notice how you feel, as in your body, is it calm and relaxed? It enjoys basking in this moment.
Gratitude builds self-belief and trust. Want to trust the decisions you make are from the heart, be in your centre, and stay strong and grounded. Practice gratitude daily.
In tribute to Dolores O’Riordan from the Cranberries whose song is the anthem of the year in Limerick ‘Dreams’ RIP x